Tonight was like any other when I picked my son up from his church class, packed with opportunity for kids to run rampant on the playground and burn off the last molecule of kinetic energy they had stored for the day while the grown-ups enjoy light-hearted chat.
For a social butterfly like myself, talking isn’t the problem. Actually, conversation is my truth serum. Tonight’s conversation about meal planning was no different, it was all coming out, but the final stanza was extracted when I woke during the night.
Meal planning. Sigh. Cringe. Ugh. Specifically for dinner. SIGH. CRINGE. UGH! Planning for stereotypical kids who “don’t like it” and executing dinner to find my husband got caught at work are completely demoralizing.
There I was, awake in the middle of the night the shut-off on my brain was broken and the dinner menu was plaguing my mind! People plan dinner and strive to dine together because it physically tends the body and relationally feeds our hearts. While I have a growing list of excuses to not plan and intentionally cook dinner for my family, I began to extrapolate, am I making excuses to not plan more important matters? Our now occupied schedule scurried through my mind.
Entering the world of T-ball and ballet this spring has filled our schedule to the brim. The danger of losing points of personal connection is tangible especially when everyone is fatigued from activity. We plan for the activity; snacks packed, time allotted for getting out the door and loaded in the car, traffic, practical needs to be accomplished upon arrival… commitment forces us in and out the door, shuffling from car to practice, meals to baths. The obvious necessities will always be taken care of, it’s the stewing intangible needs that concern me.
After a hearty workout most athletes have a “recovery meal”. What about recovery meals for relationships, for the hearts of active families? Hugs, snuggles, a few minutes of conversation with eye contact to reconnect with each child, YES! Deliberate time to do what relaxes and engages your family, YES! Busyness is not the problem. Baseball, piano, soccer, ballet or art are not the problem Plan the relational recovery meal with the other practicalities and logistics to prevent relational blur and regret.
Heart Check: Am I intentionally creating points of connection with my spouse and family to feed their hearts?
Feedback Please! My kids our young. What do you do to (re)connect with your tweens, teens, and adult children?