Relationships begin with the simple cotton candy bliss of “love”. It’s intoxicating and exhilarating. Because we think we can have this perma-bliss experience, we decide to get married; it’s going to be sunshine and roses every minute of everyday, right?. I still remember sitting in my dad’s car saying, “…but her really loves me. I choose love over money.” (He was in school at the time.)
Some of these revelations about our spouse challenge us to our core. Stats suggest that 50% of “love” fail right here (divorce rates). A reality check for me revealed that somewhere between the warm-fuzzies of Hallmark cards and Reese, Kate and Matthew McConaughey’s romantic comedies, I’ve lost perspective. I want (maybe demand would be my husbands word choice) so much from my husband, but what am I offering in return? Am I an example of what I desire?
“Love suffers long and is KIND; love does not envy; love DOES NOT PARADE ITSELF , is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, THINKS NO EVIL; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears ALL things, BELIEVES ALL THINGS, hopes ALL things, ENDURES all things. LOVE NEVER FAILS.” (Thanks Paul for inspired words)
Heart check: When you read the quote above, what stands out to you? Which words do you think people in your inner circle would choose to say about you? Where does your love need to grow?